THE BAD HABITS OF UNHAPPY PEOPLE
Happiness, we all want it. We all chase it – mostly in the wrong places.
Has it ever occurred to you however, that your daily habits could be the root cause of your unhappiness as opposed to bad luck/bad choices/bad health etc?
See if you can spot yourself, or anyone you know, in this list and make a move to stamping it out, right here, right now…
If you are wired up to look for ‘faults’ and constantly point out flaws in yourself and others then you are seriously holding back the happy in your life. Start by ‘watching’ yourself as though you were on TV and catch yourself in the act. You will be amazed at how often you criticise and throw shade. Turn it around instantly and look for a positive to wipe it out. Repeat daily.
Likewise, if your day starts off with a series of ‘Oh, I am so exhausted’, ‘Look at the horrible rain!’ and so forth, you’re setting yourself up for a very blue day indeed. Positive affirmations, whether you really feel them or not, will stamp out this habit. Just repeat some lovely positive statements, on a loop in your mind, and the magic will happen soon enough. Trust me. It’s like a magnet for positivity, we don’t truly know why, but it is. Try it today.
Constantly comparing your life and your material assets with other people is a huge stealer of our joy. Stop it. Quite simply, just stop it. You may think the grass is greener but it really isn’t . Everyone has their good and their bad, but you may never get to see it. Decide what you want in this life and go for it. Based on what will make you and everyone you love feel happy, safe and fulfilled. Nothing else.
LIVING BEYOND MEANS
If you can’t afford it, don’t buy it. Having it will not bring you happiness, it will bring you debt, which will bring you worry, which will bring you misery. Live within YOUR means and enjoy every single little thing you have.
GIVING IN TO FEAR
Fear is an instinct, we all have it. It is there to protect us – not stop us. You must feel the fear, sit with it, understand it – then go ahead and do it anyway. If you start allowing fear to dictate what you do, it’s a slippery slope into a very unfulfilling life. If you’re scared, do it afraid. The joy that will follow will amaze you.
Nobody, NOBODY, feels the horrible stomach churning wrath of a grudge, except you. The other person doesn’t know, or maybe doesn’t care. It’s only yourself you are harming. When a bad mood sinks in, we can be guilty of internally googling all of our grudges and relishing in the bitterness of them. It’s a bad habit. LET THEM GO. Forgive, don’t forget – but learn and move on, free of the cloud.
Are you guilty of playing through your past looking for things you could have done, should have done, wished you hadn’t said and so on? It is a bad habit. Your retrospective memory walks should be kept only for the good stuff. Let the bad stuff go, once you’ve extracted the lesson. When you find yourself regretting anything, find an uplifting memory to focus on instead.
The mind is a powerful tool. When you worry and focus heavily on something in your mind, you are essentially visualising the outcome you don’t want. Using your imagination for the bad? Why would you do that? Change the ending to the one you do want and visualise that instead. Send positivity to the worry and turn it around.