Depression is a deep dark place.
It’s incredibly hard to be a friend to someone with mental health issues.
We are difficult to understand. Impossible to predict… and sometimes require the patience of a saint. You don’t know which person you’re going to get when you call… whether you’ll laugh at the most ridiculous thing or whether you’ll get a half hearted response to whatever you say. You don’t know how long the episodes will last and whether to call or leave us be.. the truth is, neither do we.
As I come out of the darkest patch I can ever remember I am beyond grateful to those that kept me safe. I can’t put into words how bad the last few months have been and how terrified I’ve felt at times. My safety net is peace and calm and a disassociation with day to day life which can be incredibly hard to understand. Only now the clouds have lifted can I see how powerful this illness is. My entire mindset is different, my personality is different..being ill changes me into a person I don’t know.
If you have a friend suffering from mental health issues please don’t give up.. they may not reply today, or tomorrow, or next week.. but just that reminder that you’re still there will stick with them while they recover.
There’s no right and wrong.. its just knowing people care thats important, in December more than ever.
If you’re suffering know that it will pass. The clouds always part at some point.. it’s just having the faith that a better day is closer. Never judge your life and your value on a bad day. You’re so much more than that!!!
Stay safe x
Kind thanks to H. Midgley for these honest and inspiring words, we are all in this together.