Means you are now ‘she’.You are the one who creates Christmas.You are the one who honours the traditions, and ensures that the joy is passed down, as she would have liked.But that is hard when you are hurting, when you are still a little girl deep down, who misses her mama very much indeed.So, be

AGE HOWEVER YOU LIKEI mean, you do you.If you want to pull and tweak and tighten and brighten.Go for it.Why not?Is it making you happy?Good, life is short.Take the happiness wherever it appears. But… If that doesn’t make you happy and you seek another way.You could just age my friend. Find a role model, be

When I see the perfect people,perfect is no longer what I see…I see pressure,I see stress,I see strict regimes and unforgiving schedules.I see fear of failure.I see hunger.I see missed fun, empty plates and lives too full with punishing conformity.Most of all I see a very sad inner child who never imagined a life of

I’m a big fan of women who snort when they laugh.Women who overshare awkward truths when the conversation stalls.I’m a big believer in singing loudly in the car whenever possibleand I love pulling alongside a fellow diva doing the same.I’m a big fan of women who love women,who spot toilet paper on the shoes and

To the woman who looks around and wonders, why everyone else is so much more capable. So much stronger.  So much more ambitious, than her. To the woman who thinks everyone else is blazing a fiery path through this thing we call life, while she limps behind, barely getting through the days.… Somewhere, another woman

It’s been a few days since you passed. And yet I am still thinking about you pretty much all the time, which is strange because I didn’t know you at all, in real life. Thoughts of you and how you felt in the final moments of your life have kept me awake the last few

Whether you have a mother or not, the need will always be there. Even if you never had one, even if you don’t have any experience of that maternal love, there is a hole inside of you that perhaps, you didn’t even know you had. A woman needs her mum, this much is true.  So

To My No Fuss Friend Thank you for understanding that life is faster than I am… That, in my mind’s eye, we would hang out so much more often. Thank you, for not passive-aggressively berating me, each time I fail to return a text or answer a call…and for always allowing me to just dive

Listen very closely to those little feelings that start in your tummy and try very hard to be heard.  They are the voices of those who watch you.  They are your guardian angels doing their thing. Pay attention to the hairs that bristle on the back of your neck.  For when that happens, you have

When your head hits the pillow tonight Remember the smiles of the day, the laughter, the warm words… And let everything else go. Put the lessons learned in a file marked ‘done’ and give yourself a pat on the back for the things you got right. Leave the stresses of tomorrow where they belong –

When my kids are grown and out in the world, I want to be that house… the one where everyone travels back to. The house where everyone feels at home and joy is bursting out of the windows and doors. Where a problem shared is a problem halved. The house that rings with laughter, music

To keep others warm. There was a time, I would have crossed oceans to reach people, who wouldn’t cross a stream for me.There was a time, I would try, too hard, to be seen by those, who would simply never see me.There was a time, I felt myself unworthy, of a person, who could actually

And it will hurt like hell…. You’re going to lose people along the way People you thought you’d never lose. People you truly believed would always be there. And it’s going to hurt like hell. But that, my friend, is life People change, relationships change. Some evolve. Some disintegrate. Some people leave through no will

Today, remember that the bad times, are part of your journey too. They are part of your story. So own them – never let them own you. These challenges that you face? You are supposed to be facing them. You are supposed to come out victorious. This is just another chapter in your book. Never

There will be some very painful moments in your life, my friend. There will be moments, days even, when the sun doesn’t seem to rise in your world and the breath feels sucked right out of your lungs. When food has no taste, the world has no joy and everything seems like an effort too

There will never be a day you don’t miss her. Never a day, where you don’t wish you could hear her voice or ask for her advice just one more time. There will never be a moment that you don’t regret all the times you screened her call, or missed a visit, simply because life

There will be days, my friend…. When you feel like you just can’t go on. Just keep swimming. Breathe in and breathe out and wait for the light of a new day to dawn. There will be days, my friend…. When nothing seems to be making sense. It’s not supposed to. Clear your mind and

NOW THAT I AM OLDER… The list of the ‘things I want’, has gotten smaller with every passing year. These days, I can pretty much narrow it down to – good health for us all, enough money, enough time, enough fun, enough work – really, just enough. Enough. That’s really all that I want. The

There are many choices available to us women in this life – but when it comes to your body, there are only two: Accept it Or don’t. You see, if you choose to accept your body, you will soon start to love it, admire it, look after it. These things all follow in the wake

Think about it, you have EARNED this face. Every line, a laugh shared. Every wrinkle, a year survived. Every age spot, a day that the sun shone on you. Some women believe that as they age, they LOSE their looks. Oh my friends how wrong this is. A beautiful young women is a happy accident

To My Babies… Whatever choices you make in this life, wherever you go, whomever who you choose to share it with… I want you to keep coming home. I want you to know, that in this fast-paced, crazy world in which we live – you always have a safe place to rest your weary head

TO THE WOMAN WHO WILL LOVE MY SON ONE DAY… It is hard, so hard, to imagine a day where I will not be the moon, the sun and the sky to my little man. When he is sad, he calls for me. When he is scared, it’s me he wants. When he feels excited, I

Getting Older… Is like being given a ‘Backstage Tour’. Without the lights, the sets, the music – suddenly you see the whole production for what it is… a show. You catch a glimpse of the ‘star’; without make-up, getting ready to go home – and you realise she is not the superhuman entity you thought

Here’s the thing, You cannot lose real friends. You just can’t. They won’t go, no matter how hard you push them away when you are not quite yourself. They will wait and wait and wait – until they see a tiny little glimmer of your light breaking through – and back they will come. So,

There will always be someone in this life who just doesn’t like you, no matter how hard you try to please them. There will always be something that you say, or do, which causes offence or division. Whether you meant to or not. There will always be someone who finds fault in you, your life

FRIENDSHIP – IT’S NOT A NUMBERS GAME You can have one friend – one single friend – whose support is so fierce, so fabulously fierce, that you feel like there is an army behind you. And yet you can have umpteen other friends whose allegiance you are not entirely sure of… You can meet a

There comes a day, somewhere in the middle of every woman’s life, when Mother Nature herself stands behind us and wraps her arms around our shoulders, whispering “It’s time.” “You have taken enough now. It’s time to stop growing up, stop growing older and start growing wiser – and wilder. There are adventures still waiting