Image of Sarah Jessica Parker looking to the side

AGE HOWEVER YOU LIKE

AGE HOWEVER YOU LIKEI mean, you do you.If you want to pull and tweak and tighten and brighten.Go for it.Why not?Is it making you happy?Good, life is short.Take the happiness wherever it appears. But… If that doesn’t make you happy and you seek another way.You could just age my friend. Find a role model, be

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Painting by Julia Watkins of woman swathed in light

THE PERFECT PEOPLE

When I see the perfect people,perfect is no longer what I see…I see pressure,I see stress,I see strict regimes and unforgiving schedules.I see fear of failure.I see hunger.I see missed fun, empty plates and lives too full with punishing conformity.Most of all I see a very sad inner child who never imagined a life of

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PAINTING OF MOTHER AND DAUGHTER BY RAINBOW

IN TWENTY YEARS TIME…

In twenty years time…People will not ask the children of 2020 if they caught up with their studies.They will not ask them what grades they made, despite the year off school.They will ask them with wonder ‘what was it like?’They will ask them ‘how did you cope?’‘How did you feel?’‘What do you remember of those

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I’m A Big Fan Of Women…

I’m a big fan of women who snort when they laugh.Women who overshare awkward truths when the conversation stalls.I’m a big believer in singing loudly in the car whenever possibleand I love pulling alongside a fellow diva doing the same.I’m a big fan of women who love women,who spot toilet paper on the shoes and

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Don’t Prioritise Your Looks

Don’t prioritise your looks my friend,they won’t last the journey.Your sense of humour though, will only get better.Your intuition will grow and expand like a majestic cloak of wisdom.Your ability to choose your battles, will be fine-tuned to perfection.Your capacity for stillness, for living in the moment, will blossom.And your desire to live each and

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Teenager starting into distance/ poem about teenagers by Donna ashworth

Tell The Teenagers

Tell the teenagersThat this will not go on forever, that very very soon, their life will begin again and it will begin in glorious technicolour. Tell the teenagersThat they are not being left behind, that all the other young people are waiting too, this stress is collective. Tell the teenagersThat night is darkest before dawn,

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CHARLES MACKESY DRAWING

ONE DAY

Today, I dared to let myself dream,That the world will one day open again.That the locks will loosen, the walls will fall,The doors will fly open and reunite us all. I dared to imagine the warmth of a cuddle,A group of my friends all locked in a huddle.I felt all the heartbeats, drumming with mine,I

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Female friendship

Dear Friend, Save Your Best For Someone Else

Dear Friend, I don’t need you at your best when you come to my home.I don’t care what you’re wearing or what car you drove.I don’t care if there is food on your shirt or if your hair has not been brushed.None of that matters to me.I care about you. I care about what’s in

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What If We’re Not Just Tired…

What if we’re not just tired.What if it’s our souls that are exhausted?The kind of tired that sleep won’t remedy, that fresh air or good food won’t help.You see, when the world is in crisis (and it is), your soul becomes weary with the weight of collective grief.With the magnitude of problems which need to

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You Weren’t Born To Fade Away my Friend..

Life may smooth away all of your rough edges, with its twists and turns and lessons to be learned.Life may force you to fashion a tough outer shell.Life may break you and reform you many many times until you don’t even recognise the shapes you see in the mirror anymore.And that’s okay, it really is.

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To The Woman Who Thinks She Isn’t Good Enough

To the woman who looks around and wonders, why everyone else is so much more capable. So much stronger.  So much more ambitious, than her. To the woman who thinks everyone else is blazing a fiery path through this thing we call life, while she limps behind, barely getting through the days.… Somewhere, another woman

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Caroline flack suicide/ RIP Caroline

Dear Caroline,

It’s been a few days since you passed. And yet I am still thinking about you pretty much all the time, which is strange because I didn’t know you at all, in real life. Thoughts of you and how you felt in the final moments of your life have kept me awake the last few

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To My No-Fuss Friend…

To My No Fuss Friend Thank you for understanding that life is faster than I am… That, in my mind’s eye, we would hang out so much more often. Thank you, for not passive-aggressively berating me, each time I fail to return a text or answer a call…and for always allowing me to just dive

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Gut Feelings Are Your Guardian Angels

Listen very closely to those little feelings that start in your tummy and try very hard to be heard.  They are the voices of those who watch you.  They are your guardian angels doing their thing. Pay attention to the hairs that bristle on the back of your neck.  For when that happens, you have

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When your head hits the pillow tonight…

When your head hits the pillow tonight Remember the smiles of the day, the laughter, the warm words… And let everything else go. Put the lessons learned in a file marked ‘done’ and give yourself a pat on the back for the things you got right. Leave the stresses of tomorrow where they belong –

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BY 40, OUR MIDDLE FINGER IS AT HALF-MAST…

By 50, it’s full on UP.By 60, both of those fingers are hoisted in a V…and not a single care is given any more.I mean, we care about our family, our friends and our passions.We care about the environment.We care about equality and living in peace.But we don’t care about ‘fitting in’ and we don’t

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I Want To Have That Kind Of Home…

When my kids are grown and out in the world, I want to be that house… the one where everyone travels back to. The house where everyone feels at home and joy is bursting out of the windows and doors. Where a problem shared is a problem halved. The house that rings with laughter, music

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You’re Going To Lose People Along The Way

And it will hurt like hell…. You’re going to lose people along the way People you thought you’d never lose. People you truly believed would always be there. And it’s going to hurt like hell. But that, my friend, is life People change, relationships change. Some evolve. Some disintegrate. Some people leave through no will

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TO THE WOMAN WHO IS SLOWLY FADING AWAY…

To the woman who has lost her spark. To the woman whose get up and go, has well and truly gone. This is for you. This is to remind you whose daughter you are. This is to remind you, that you don’t have to be everything to everyone, every day. You didn’t sign up for

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Right Now, You’re Somebody’s Hero….

Today, remember that the bad times, are part of your journey too. They are part of your story. So own them – never let them own you. These challenges that you face? You are supposed to be facing them. You are supposed to come out victorious. This is just another chapter in your book. Never

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If You Are A Woman Without Her Mother

There will never be a day you don’t miss her. Never a day, where you don’t wish you could hear her voice or ask for her advice just one more time. There will never be a moment that you don’t regret all the times you screened her call, or missed a visit, simply because life

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BE THAT WOMAN

Be the kind of woman you want to call when things go wrong. Be the motivator, the encourager of dreams. Be the kind of fierce friend you want to have yourself. Love your girlfriends deeply, they are your sister warriors in this world and only they know just what a crazy, hormonal ride womanhood really

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There will be days my friend, tomorrow is a new day

There will be days, my friend…

There will be days, my friend…. When you feel like you just can’t go on. Just keep swimming. Breathe in and breathe out and wait for the light of a new day to dawn. There will be days, my friend…. When nothing seems to be making sense. It’s not supposed to. Clear your mind and

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NOW THAT I AM OLDER

NOW THAT I AM OLDER… The list of the ‘things I want’, has gotten smaller with every passing year. These days, I can pretty much narrow it down to – good health for us all, enough money, enough time, enough fun, enough work – really, just enough. Enough. That’s really all that I want. The

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YOU DID YOUR BEST TODAY

YOU DID YOUR BEST TODAY You did what you could. You could have done more – possibly. You could have done things differently – sure. But you did what you did and that’s that. That is that. Your intentions were good, your efforts were from the heart – but you know what, life gets in

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WAVE THE WHITE FLAG

There are many choices available to us women in this life – but when it comes to your body, there are only two: Accept it Or don’t. You see, if you choose to accept your body, you will soon start to love it, admire it, look after it. These things all follow in the wake

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THE ART OF AGEING GRACEFULLY

Think about it, you have EARNED this face. Every line, a laugh shared. Every wrinkle, a year survived. Every age spot, a day that the sun shone on you. Some women believe that as they age, they LOSE their looks. Oh my friends how wrong this is. A beautiful young women is a happy accident

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I WANT YOU TO KEEP COMING HOME

To My Babies… Whatever choices you make in this life, wherever you go, whomever who you choose to share it with… I want you to keep coming home. I want you to know, that in this fast-paced, crazy world in which we live – you always have a safe place to rest your weary head

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Getting Older Is Like Being Given A Backstage Tour

Getting Older… Is like being given a ‘Backstage Tour’. Without the lights, the sets, the music – suddenly you see the whole production for what it is… a show. You catch a glimpse of the ‘star’; without make-up, getting ready to go home – and you realise she is not the superhuman entity you thought

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A REAL FRIEND JUST CAN’T BE LOST

Here’s the thing, You cannot lose real friends. You just can’t. They won’t go, no matter how hard you push them away when you are not quite yourself. They will wait and wait and wait – until they see a tiny little glimmer of your light breaking through – and back they will come. So,

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TO OUR DAUGHTERS

TO OUR DAUGHTERS 🌟 You were born made of softness, sweetness and love, but with a will so strong it could bend iron – despite what society may tell you, you don’t have to lose one or the other. Keep them all, they are yours. Aren’t you blessed? 🌟 Your super-power in this life, is

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When You Have Lost Someone You Love

When you have lost someone you love… Do not make the mistake of living in sadness, or living small to honour their absence. You owe it to them to live even more vividly than before. If they could reach you, they would surely say.. “Take the love you had for me and turn it into

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YOU CAN’T BE EVERYONE’S CUP OF TEA

There will always be someone in this life who just doesn’t like you, no matter how hard you try to please them. There will always be something that you say, or do, which causes offence or division. Whether you meant to or not. There will always be someone who finds fault in you, your life

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FRIENDSHIP IS NOT A NUMBERS GAME

FRIENDSHIP – IT’S NOT A NUMBERS GAME You can have one friend – one single friend – whose support is so fierce, so fabulously fierce, that you feel like there is an army behind you. And yet you can have umpteen other friends whose allegiance you are not entirely sure of… You can meet a

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Ali macgraw/ ageing

10 THINGS TIME HAS TAUGHT ME

10 THINGS TIME HAS TAUGHT ME 1. Most of our life is spent chasing false goals and worshipping false ideals. The day you realise that is the day you really start to live. 2. You really, truly cannot please all of the people all of the time. Please yourself first and your loved ones second,

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It’s time/ aging/ getting older/ mature woman/grey hair woman/ mother natire

IT’S TIME

There comes a day, somewhere in the middle of every woman’s life, when Mother Nature herself stands behind us and wraps her arms around our shoulders, whispering “It’s time.” “You have taken enough now. It’s time to stop growing up, stop growing older and start growing wiser – and wilder. There are adventures still waiting

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When You Say Goodbye To A Parent

When you say goodbye to a parent. You are suddenly living in a whole new world. You are no longer ‘the child’ and regardless of how long you have officially been ‘grown up’ for, you realise you actually never were until this moment. The shock of this adjustment will shake your very core. When you

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REMEMBER HER?

REMEMBER HER?   Somewhere inside of you, there’s a little firecracker with her arms folded and a frown on her face. She isn’t happy about all the times you said no when you wanted to say yes. All the times you said yes when you wanted to say no. She wanted you to buy the

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THE IMPORTANCE OF THE ORDINARY

Teach them to love the feel of a hug. Teach them to spot the sadness of a friend. Teach them to understand the power of a thank you and a please. Teach them how wonderful sand and grass feel on bare feet and how magical getting soaked in a rainstorm can be. Teach them the

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